Trying to Conceive, or "The Most Sex You've Had Since You Started Having Sex"

Let's face it, at some point "the bloom is off the rose" as far as bedroom olympics goes. You've been there, done that, and now you've settled into a nice once or twice a week routine that more or less suits everyone involved (or once or twice a month, depending on how long you've been married).

But then you decide to have a baby, and all of a sudden it's no holds barred. You're having sex at least once a day, maybe every second day if you're really concerned about maximum sperm content. You've instantly reverted to the beginning of your relationship where you couldn't get enough of each other, and it is GREAT.

Enjoy it. Savor it. Because soon you'll be huge, and bloated, and seriously gassy, and sexy time will be the last thing on your mind. And then you'll have blown out your vagina having a baby and again, it will be the last thing on your mind. In fact, if you include that last trimester of your pregnancy, it might be about a year before you're interested in sex again at all. That's not to say you won't do it (because you are, after all, a loving and dutiful wife), but you may not enjoy it as much as you used to before, say, a baby was in the next room napping for who knows how long and you still need to do the dishes and eat something before he/she wakes up and oh crap! is that crying you hear??

But I digress.

Trying to conceive, at least in my experience, was a lot of fun. Super stressful those last few days, waiting to take a pregnancy test (or five), but also really exciting. It doesn't help that every pregnancy symptom is also a period symptom, so you're pretty much in the dark until you can take that test (unless you're one of those women with a keen intuition, of which I was not).

Last piece of advice? Don't tell people you're trying. Or at least think really hard about it first. Telling people you're trying puts a lot more pressure on the situation. Some of those people will flat out ask you every couple days if you know yet, and even with the ones who don't ask outright you'll know they're secretly wondering and dying to know. Plus if you had any thoughts of waiting until the first trimester was over to tell people, those are pretty much shot down. Hard to keep a HUGE smile off your face when people ask you how it's going and you know it's going so well that there is at that very moment a baby growing inside you. And then if it doesn't work it's even worse, because a) you feel crappy that you're not pregnant yet and b) now you have all these people basically rubbing it in with all their questions.

And that was TTC in my experience! Keep in mind I had a pretty positive experience since it only took one cycle. I really feel for the women who try for months or years, and I thank my lucky stars we got so, well, lucky.