Baby No. 2 Cont’d

My baby is a year younger than Annie’s, but her post still totally resonates with me!  I feel like I had a baby and for the first 6 months there was no question that obviously I wasn’t trying for a second, and then after that you start getting the inquiries (although things don’t really ramp up until the first birthday).

“So, have you two started talking about baby number 2??”

And it’s just so hard!  Here’s the issue.  I definitely don’t want 2 babies right at this moment in time.  I don’t even particularly want to have 1 baby and be pregnant with a second baby right now.  But what about in 5 years?  Then will I be glad my kids are close together? 

Much like many other areas of motherhood, child spacing seems to be kind of a joke in that no one ever really knows what they’re doing.  It’s all just a best guess scenario.  I mean maybe you’re convinced you want your kids close together and you just adore changing diapers and fighting about nap times and wiping up the floors 3 times a day (I assume because you have some sort of self-hate issue. KIDDING! sort of…), but it’s not like wanting a second child is all it takes.  You also have to actually get pregnant.  So what I’m saying is, you could totally try early for a second and then it suddenly takes months or years.  Or you could want to wait for a second but suddenly you’re that 0.3% of women who get pregnant on the pill.  You just never really know, right?

It all boils down to the fact that I think in 5 years I’ll be happy that my kids are close in age.  Which I guess means yes, we’re thinking about baby number 2.

We’ll see what happens.

Baby No. 2

It seems to be the question that not only you are thinking but also the question that everyone asks. "So when you thinking you'll have the next one?" and these questions usually start right after you have the 1st one (not unlike people asking when your gonna start having kids after you get married). And of course I believe that when and how you start a family is really no one else's business but you and your spouses. That being said there are literally endless amounts of articles and research on the subject not to mention the way you and your siblings were spaced coming into play.

As for me the first month of Gabe's life I thought one kid was perfect (I was exhausted lets face it, as a first time mom we all know how it is). I thought one was great until Gabe was around 18 months old.... I finally saw the light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. In a moment I looked at him and said to myself he has so much love inside of him that a sibling would not only be a blessing to my husband and I but also Gabe would be so loving to a brother or sister. Of course this feeling has only grown over the past 6 months and after Gabriel turns 2 I think we are ready to start trying again. We were so blessed to conceive Gabe within the first month of trying however I do know that isn't always the case so the early we start the better.

Sibling Spacing:

In my family we are all really close my brother was 19 months old when me and my twin sister came along. In my husbands family his older brother was only 15 months when he was born. So we are no strangers to close spacing however for us we wanted the time and space between our children (hopefully children: knock on wood).

As a mom I have perfected my french toast which Gabe loves to have for breakfast. I recently left the grocery store with one wet foot because Gabe had dumped have a bottle of juice on it. I get big hugs from Gabe now and they are so random, like when I'm doing the dishes and he comes up behind me and hugs my legs (I call it a butt hug b/c his head hits my backside). Washing Gabe's lovie "Bow" is a task that takes great distraction on my part and meltdowns always happen (considering that Bow does everything with Gabe he needs to be washed pretty regularly). Cleaning with a toddler is both instructive and LONG seeing as he likes to make a mess of whatever I am attempting to clean, on the flipside he understands what cleaning is and mimics all the things I do!

They grow up to fast it's as simple as that and now when I look at my little Gabe I see a "boy" and not a "baby", I cherish every moment and can't wait for each new day to bring new discoveries.